Certified: Certified by the NC Dispute Resolution Commission
for mediating divorce financial issues.
should you select us to mediate your divorce?
A client writes: "I found Art to be very kind and fair. He
was patient with us, did not rush or judge us. He was an excellent
listener, helped us listen to each other and to come to agreements.
It was hard; it was sad; my husband and I both had to compromise,
but Art helped us do so with dignity. I highly recommend him. AW"
From another: "My ex-wife and I have an exceptional post-divorce
relationship. We believe the work we did with you helped us avoid
contentious litigation. Our children have benefited from our peaceful,
cooperative relationship, thanks to the work we did with you. Thank
"Thank you for the preliminary paperwork. I enjoyed meeting
you and am grateful for your calm and kind approach to this process.
[My husband] and I are dedicated to making this change in our lives
with dignity and consideration. Thank you for helping us accomplish
our goal. AP"
"This process has been made significantly more bearable because
of you and your approach to separation. We very much appreciate
what you've done for us. TC"
"Just wanted to send a note to say Thank You for your care
and compassion with my husband and me. The whole process isn't easy
on the heart, but you have made it better than I expected. MF"
"I'm glad we used you for our divorce. You made the process
light, easy and comfortable. The whole process saved us a lot of
time and money. DM"
"I'm writing to let you know that [our] divorce was made final
today. Thank you for helping us write up our separation agreement.
Your kindness, knowledge and calm demeanor was comforting and reassuring
to me during such a difficult time in my life. LB"
divorce mediation, you will experience...
· guidance to a mutual and fair
· a safe environment where you
can express your needs;
· education for the decisions
that you need to make;
· mediation of any areas of disagreement,
of alternatives for you to consider;
· empowerment to make decisions
for yourselves, concerning:
your assets and debts
arrangements and responsibilities (custody)
- Child support
- Spousal support
The majority of our clients reach agreement on
all issues in 3 to 5 sessions of 2 hours each..
Especially when there is a lot of anger, mediation
is more fitting than hiring attorneys to do your negotiating.
questions... call Art at (919) 848-9282 or (910) 916-4826
fax (815) 346-5362
here to set up an appointment.
You'll learn quickly that divorce mediation will
significantly lower the cost, the time, and the stress level of
your divorce. Take the peaceful approach to your divorce.
are only at the Raleigh office.
here for required reading
prior to your consultation.
Mediation in a nutshell...
(Please read each of the links at the top
of this page, but here's a condensed version...)
Divorce is basically a three-step process: (1) writing your Separation
Agreement that includes all of the decisions related to the divorce,
(2) separating, and (3) having the court declare that the marriage
is terminated. Mediation covers the first step: helping the two
of you make the decisions related to the breakup.
I meet with
both of you, together, in my office. My role is to guide
you through a process to help the two of you come up with fair decisions
regarding (a) dividing your assets and debts, (b) making parenting
arrangements for your children, (c) determining child support, and
(d) working out spousal support (if any). We identify each of the
issues, talk about alternative solutions, and then work out mutually
of the mediation is a document that I write, called a Memorandum
of Understanding (MOU). It is usually 10 to 15 pages long, detailing
the decisions that you have made. This MOU is used to create your
Separation Agreement - a contract signed by you in front of a notary
public. I encourage my clients to share that document with their
attorneys, who will review it with you and suggest alternative wording
to help clarify the points and to help ensure enforceability.
sessions tend to last around 2 hours, and we usually meet once per
week until all decisions are completed. The majority of my clients
who have children need three or four sessions. However, we remain
very flexible regarding the timing of the sessions.
You are not
required to use attorneys in order to get divorced, but I do encourage
my clients to have attorneys. The role of the attorneys usually
is narrowed to consulting, reviewing, and managing the paperwork.
The majority of the work - the decision-making - is done in mediation
without the attorneys. So, paying one mediator instead of two attorneys
cuts your negotiation costs in half. And, because the mediation
process is much more efficient, your costs may be less than a third
compared to using two opposing attorneys for negotiating. More importantly,
it is the nature of the mediation process that the arguments, the
fights, the threats, the game playing come to an immediate halt.
The goal: To help the two of you move on with your lives in a
peaceful and financially-secure manner.
Please read each of the links at the top
of this page.
provides more information about how mediation works.
Questions cover many issues that may be on your mind.
points out special concerns.
Art Lieberman discusses my approaches to mediation and my
Keep the Peace recommends how to prevent flair-ups while
you are still living together, waiting for the divorce to happen.
Child Support allows you to use a "calculator"
for the NC guidelines.
More leads to forms that my clients use, links
to web sites for self-help, caring for the children, domestic abuse,
organizations, taxes, governmental, contact, directions,
civil & commercial mediation, and other information relevant