"The courts require the use of mediation.
Mediate to a Fair Divorce before arguing
between two attorneys."
Raleigh & Fayetteville, NC
Certified: Certified by the NC Dispute Resolution Commission for mediating
divorce financial issues.
should you select us to mediate your divorce?
A client writes: "I found Art to be very kind and fair. He was patient
with us, did not rush or judge us. He was an excellent listener, helped
us listen to each other and to come to agreements. It was hard; it was
sad; my husband and I both had to compromise, but Art helped us do so with
dignity. I highly recommend him. AW"
From another: "My ex-wife and I have an exceptional post-divorce relationship.
We believe the work we did with you helped us avoid contentious litigation.
Our children have benefited from our peaceful, cooperative relationship,
thanks to the work we did with you. Thank you! KH"
"Thank you for the preliminary paperwork. I enjoyed meeting you
and am grateful for your calm and kind approach to this process. [My husband]
and I are dedicated to making this change in our lives with dignity and
consideration. Thank you for helping us accomplish our goal. AP"
"This process has been made significantly more bearable because
of you and your approach to separation. We very much appreciate what you've
done for us. TC"
"Just wanted to send a note to say Thank You for your care and compassion
with my husband and me. The whole process isn't easy on the heart, but
you have made it better than I expected. MF"
"I'm glad we used you for our divorce. You made the process light,
easy and comfortable. The whole process saved us a lot of time and money.
"I'm writing to let you know that [our] divorce was made final today.
Thank you for helping us write up our separation agreement. Your kindness,
knowledge and calm demeanor was comforting and reassuring to me during such a
difficult time in my life. LB"
divorce mediation, you will experience...
guidance to a mutual and fair agreement package;
a safe environment where you can express your needs;
education for the decisions that you need to make;
mediation of any areas of disagreement, with an
of alternatives for you to consider;
to make decisions for yourselves, concerning:
Dividing your assets and debts
Parenting arrangements and responsibilities (custody)
The majority of our clients reach agreement on all
issues in 3 to 5 sessions of 2 hours each..
when there is a lot of anger, mediation is more fitting than hiring attorneys
to do your negotiating.
questions... call Art at (919) 848-9282 or (910) 916-4826
fax (815) 346-5362
(919) 848-9282 or (910) 916-4826 or
set up an appointment.
You'll learn quickly that divorce mediation will
significantly lower the cost, the time, and the stress level of your divorce.
Take the peaceful approach to your divorce.
Mediation in a nutshell...
(Please read each of the links at the top
of this page, but here's a condensed version...)
Divorce is basically a three-step process: (1) writing your Separation
Agreement that includes all of the decisions related to the divorce, (2)
separating, and (3) having the court declare that the marriage is terminated.
Mediation covers the first step: helping the two of you make the decisions
related to the breakup.
I meet with both
of you, together, in my office. My role is to guide you through a process
to help the two of you come up with fair decisions regarding (a) dividing
your assets and debts, (b) making parenting arrangements for your children,
(c) determining child support, and (d) working out spousal support (if
any). We identify each of the issues, talk about alternative solutions,
and then work out mutually agreeable solutions.
The result of the
mediation is a document that I write, called a Memorandum of Understanding
(MOU). It is usually 10 to 15 pages long, detailing the decisions that
you have made. This MOU is used to create your Separation Agreement - a
contract signed by you in front of a notary public. I encourage my clients
to share that document with their attorneys, who will review it with you
and suggest alternative wording to help clarify the points and to help
My mediation sessions
tend to last around 2 hours, and we usually meet once per week until all
decisions are completed. The majority of my clients who have children need
three or four sessions. However, we remain very flexible regarding the
timing of the sessions.
You are not required
to use attorneys in order to get divorced, but I do encourage my clients
to have attorneys. The role of the attorneys usually is narrowed to consulting,
reviewing, and managing the paperwork. The majority of the work - the decision-making
- is done in mediation without the attorneys. So, paying one mediator instead
of two attorneys cuts your negotiation costs in half. And, because the
mediation process is much more efficient, your costs may be less than a
third compared to using two opposing attorneys for negotiating. More importantly,
it is the nature of the mediation process that the arguments, the fights,
the threats, the game playing come to an immediate halt. The goal: To
help the two of you move on with your lives in a peaceful and financially-secure
Please read each of the links at the top
of this page.
provides more information about how mediation works.
Questions cover many issues that may be on your mind.
points out special concerns.
Art Lieberman discusses my approaches to mediation and my qualifications.
Keep the Peace recommends how to prevent flair-ups while you are
still living together, waiting for the divorce to happen.
Child Support allows you to use a "calculator" for the
More leads to forms that my clients use, links to
web sites for self-help, caring for the children, domestic abuse, organizations,
taxes, governmental, contact, directions, civil &
commercial mediation, and other information relevant to divorces..