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"The courts require the use of mediation.
Mediate to a Fair Divorce before arguing
between two attorneys."
Art
Lieberman, Ph.D.
Professional Mediator
Raleigh, North Carolina
Court
Certified: Certified by the NC Dispute Resolution Commission for mediating
divorce financial issues in District Court.
Why should you select Art Lieberman as your mediator?
Client Comments...
A client writes: "My ex-wife and I have an exceptional post-divorce relationship.
We believe the work we did with you helped us avoid contentious litigation.
Our children have benefited from our peaceful, cooperative relationship,
thanks to the work we did with you. Thank you! KH"
From another: "Thank you for the preliminary paperwork.
I enjoyed meeting you and am grateful for your calm and kind approach to this
process. [My husband] and I are dedicated to making this change in our lives with
dignity and consideration. Thank you for helping us accomplish our goal. AP"
"This process has been made significantly more bearable because
of you and your approach to separation. We very much appreciate what you've
done for us. TC"
"Just wanted to send a note to say Thank You for your care and compassion
with my husband and me. The whole process isn't easy on the heart, but
you have made it better than I expected. MF"
"I'm glad we used you for our divorce. You made the process light,
easy and comfortable. The whole process saved us a lot of time and money.
DM"
Through
divorce mediation, you will experience... ·
guidance to a mutual and fair agreement package; ·
a safe environment where you can express your needs; ·
education for the decisions that you need to make; ·
mediation of any areas of disagreement, with an offering
of alternatives for you to consider; · empowerment
to make decisions for yourselves, concerning: -
Dividing your assets and debts -
Parenting arrangements and responsibilities (custody) -
Child support - Spousal
support
The majority of my clients reach agreement on all issues
in 3 to 5 sessions of 2 hours each..
Especially
when there is a lot of anger, mediation is more fitting than hiring attorneys
to do your negotiating.
Any
questions... call me at (919) 848-9282
or
email me.
Free consultation!
Call
(919) 848-9282 or email to set up an appointment.
You'll learn quickly that divorce mediation will significantly lower the
cost, the time, and the stress level of your divorce. Take the peaceful approach
to your divorce.
Mediation in a nutshell...
(Please read each of the links at the top
of this page, but here's a condensed version...)
Divorce is basically a two-step process: (1) writing your Separation
Agreement that includes all of the decisions related to the divorce, and
(2) having the court declare that the marriage is terminated. These two
steps are usually separate from one another. Mediation covers the first
step: helping the two of you make the decisions related to the breakup.
I meet with both
of you, in my office. My role is to guide you through a process to help
the two of you come up with fair decisions regarding (a) dividing your
assets and debts, (b) making parenting arrangements for your children,
(c) determining child support, and (d) working out spousal support (if
any). We identify each of the issues, talk about alternative solutions,
and then work out mutually agreeable solutions.
The
result of the mediation is a document that I write, called a Memorandum
of Understanding (MOU). It is usually around 10 pages long, detailing the
decisions that you have made. This MOU becomes your Separation Agreement
- a contract signed by you in front of a notary public. I encourage my
clients to share that document with their attorneys, who will review it
with you and suggest alternative wording to help clarify and make it more
enforceable
My mediation sessions
tend to last around 2 hours, and we usually meet once per week until all
decisions are completed. The majority of my clients who have children need
between three and five sessions. However, we remain very flexible regarding
the timing of the sessions.
You are not required
to use attorneys in order to get divorced, but I do encourage my clients
to have attorneys. The role of the attorneys usually is narrowed to consulting,
reviewing, and managing the paperwork. The majority of the work - the decision-making
- is done with your divorce mediator. So, paying one mediator instead of
two attorneys cuts your negotiation costs in half. And, because the mediation
process is much more efficient, your costs may be much less than half.
More importantly, it is the nature of the mediation process that the arguments,
the fights, the threats, the game playing come to an immediate halt. The
goal: To help the two of you move on with your lives in a peaceful and
financially-secure manner.
Please
read each of the links at the top of this page. Home
provides more information about how mediation works. Questions cover
many issues that may be on your mind. Art Lieberman discusses my approaches
to mediation and my qualifications. Keep the Peace recommends how to
prevent flair-ups while you are still living together, waiting for the divorce
to happen. Child Support allows you to use a "calculator"
for the NC guidelines. Other leads to forms that my clients use,
links to web sites for self-help, caring for the children, domestic abuse,
organizations, taxes, governmental, contact, directions, civil
& commercial mediation, and other information relevant to divorces.. |